What I Wish I Could Tell My Friends Without Kids... But Don’t Always Know How

Hey, friends without kids! I love you, I really do, but there are a few things I’ve realized as a mom that I wish I could tell you… But, you know, it's a little awkward to bring up, and I don’t always know how to say it. So, here it is—straight from my chaotic, kid-filled world to yours. Get ready for some unfiltered truth, because let's be real: motherhood changes everything, and sometimes I wish you understood.

1) I can't just pick up and meet you last minute.

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It’s not that I don’t want to. I do! I really do. But every single outing now requires a level of planning that would make a military operation look simple. There’s babysitter logistics, meal planning, diaper bags to pack, and sometimes the soul-crushing task of bribing a tiny human to cooperate. So, while you’re casually suggesting we hit the bar in 30 minutes, I’m over here trying to find someone to watch my kids. So… yeah. That’s a no-go. 

2) Weekdays are BUSY.

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When you work a full-time job, the day doesn’t just end when you clock out. I don’t get a nice break or a leisurely commute home. Instead, I’m diving straight into dinner prep, tantrums, bath time battles, and managing bedtime (which feels like it takes hours, yet is somehow always a rushed affair). So spontaneous Tuesday night drinks? As much as I’d love to, my “me-time” is between the hours of 8 PM and 11 PM... and even that’s often interrupted. 

3) If it takes a little while for us to get together, please know—I still miss you.

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I still miss you like crazy! It might seem like I'm distant, but it’s just that my time is stretched thinner than ever. Between parenting, work, and life in general, my days are full to the brim. So when it takes me longer to respond to texts or I have to cancel last minute, please know it’s not because I don’t care about our friendship. I do, and I’ll get there when I can! 

4) I miss doing fun stuff too.

Trust me—I miss it. I need it. But here's the thing: spontaneous, carefree hangouts just don’t work in my world anymore. If I can make it happen, I will. But I need a little notice. Maybe even a time that fits into the endless toddler schedule. So help me out, and let's plan a date soon. A good old-fashioned girls' night? I’m all in—but I might need a week’s notice! 

5) 💕 I still love you.

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Even though I’m juggling a million things and struggling to stay afloat, you’re still one of my favorite people. I may not be able to go with the flow like I used to, but my love for you hasn’t changed. I appreciate your patience more than you know. Let’s plan something soon—I promise it’ll be worth the wait. 

Life as a mom isn’t always glamorous, but it’s real. We don’t always have the time to keep up with old habits, but that doesn’t mean we don’t cherish the people in our lives. So, to all my friends without kids, thank you for sticking with me through this wild ride. Here’s to making it work, one scheduled coffee date at a time! 

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